No one provides a manual for how to raise a child. Most parents fly by the seat of their pants until things become unbearable. Parents beat themselves up for not being perfect. Children often want to connect but instead act out or push parents away because they don’t know how to get their needs met.
I understand that as a parent, you are doing the best you can, and sometimes it can be difficult to figure out what your child or teen needs. I work from a strength-based approach, focusing on what works and identifying the supporting pieces that draw out those strengths.
Let's just be upfront in saying that parenting can be challenging even with the "easiest" child. Add a little (or a lot) of intensity to the child, and it's a recipe for frustrated, angry, exasperated, exhausted parents and defeated, angry, defiant children. The good news is we can turn this around!
I am a Certified Nurtured Heart Approach™ Advanced Trainer and use the Nurtured Heart Approach™ in my work with parents and families. Nurtured Heart works in a very different way than traditional parenting techniques/recommendations/practices. In working with me, you will learn to focus on what your child is doing in a very specific way. We stop looking at the negative behavior, and turn to create connection and success from a different perspective, while being very clear about expectations and consequences.
This method is very effective, especially with intense challenging children. If your child has ADHD, impulse control challenges, anger, defiance, or anxiety - this will change your child's behavior, your way of relating to your child, and the communication within your family. And, I will be bold in saying, it will change the happiness of you and your child.
Healthy, happy children have a powerful impact on the world. Children and teens who have strong relationships with their parents and family, and a positive view of themselves, will make better choices, empower others, and grow into thriving adults.
If you work with me, I can almost guarantee I will recommend the book Transforming the Intense Child by Glasser. You might as well get it now and get started!